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Looking for a car that I can use to learn manual, something cheapish that will last me at least a year (located in Ontario Canada). Came across a 2009 Lancer DE with 250k km with the following issues:

• 2 tire rods need replacement (they offered to fix before sale)
• Front bumper crack
• Fender dent
• Windshield crack
• Front left tpms doesn't work
• Low/leaking AC making hissing noise

Assuming the engine & transmission are in good shape, with regular maintenance, am I right in assuming the other issues are minor. They also offered to safety the car which means it'll pass inspection to get it road approved.
How much more life does a lancer have after 250k km?
Would it be worth picking this up for ~$3000 CAD?
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Background; I (32) have always cared for animals and have worked in the industry for almost 13 years. Working as a vet nurse and dog trainer. My sister (37) has a small fluffy dog. Now where I have been made feel like an A** Hole.
Throughout my sisters care of her 3 year old dog, I am always bugging her to get him groomed. Over the past 12 months he is always matted and she always would be late or miss his grooming appointments. (Even with a reminder 2 hours prior). 6 months ago I had arranged his groom as he was severely matted, and he hasn’t been to the groomer since. Today my staff member picked him up (I run a dog adventure & training business) and took him out for hydrotherapy, we knew he was matted, however this time she noticed he was severely underweight. I was sent photos, which did not do it justice of how bad he was, so I had just advised he increase his food intake and get a blood test done. My staff member was unable to drop him home as my sister was out, so brought him to my house. Upon his arrival I noticed how skinny he was (I haven’t seen him for a while). Imagine a fluffy whippet, but skinnier. Not to mention being matted to the skin (with burrs stuck within the matts). We took it upon ourselves to shave him at my house with the clippers I had. Once the clippers ran out of battery and being unable to find a charger, we went to a friends grooming salon (I have a key, as they were closed). However, notifying the groomer she decided to come help. When I told my sister I was not bringing the dog home and will take him to the vet tomorrow for bloods to be done. I then received phone calls and text messages from her and her partner, telling me I’m overreacting, not being helpful and attacking them, because they didn’t realise he was underweight. I explained I was embarrassed and disgusted by the condition of the dog. Even with his matted, dirty coat, you could feel his ribs, spine and hip bones.
Am I the a** hole for not giving him back, and telling them they can meet me at the vet clinic after he has his bloods taken and gets a talking to by the vet. (FYI I work at the vet clinic part time)

Looking for a car that I can use to learn manual, something cheapish that will last me at least a year (located in Ontario Canada). Came across a 2009 Lancer DE with 250k km with the following issues:

• 2 tire rods need replacement (they offered to fix before sale)
• Front bumper crack
• Fender dent
• Windshield crack
• Front left tpms doesn't work
• Low/leaking AC making hissing noise

Assuming the engine & transmission are in good shape, with regular maintenance, am I right in assuming the other issues are minor. They also offered to safety the car which means it'll pass inspection to get it road approved.
How much more life does a lancer have after 250k km?
Would it be worth picking this up for ~$3000 CAD?
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I’m in England and on UC. I put in a fit note a couple of weeks ago and am now waiting for the UC50 to come. Does any one know how long I’ll have to wait for a WCA please?
I downloaded a copy of the UC50 off gov.uk and some of questions make it seem like they expect you to be a quadruple amputee to be rated as having a LCW or LCWRA. For example, page 8 – going up and down steps and page 9 – standing and sitting. Sure, I can manage these but I get dizzy if I stand up too quickly or go up and down the stairs too quickly as well. I am tired all the time and after 5 minutes or less, any physical activity leaves me exhausted. Until recently I could mow the lawn, front and back. Wash the car and hoover the house, up and down, all in the space of one morning. Now I have to stagger them over 3 to 4 day period.
I am being treated by my GP for mixed Anxiety & Depression and Hypertension and a hospital consultant is treating me for Hypogonadotropic Hypogonadism, and Sleep Apnoea.
I am hoping to be rated as LCWRA but I’ll settle for LCW. Any advice on how to complete the UC50 would also be very much appreciated as well. Thanks.

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I need help explaining something to my SO. Or perhaps to myself if I am off base here and not thinking through this right. Whenever my almost 3 YO daughter has a meltdown, whines or is sick (this one I can totally understand), her father plays TV for her (Mickey Mouse House club or similar) or gives her a tablet with age appropriate games like puzzles and drawings. I am not against these devices at all, however, they are given in the moment when the boundary should have been upheld and when she screams hard and loud. He is unable to not give her those devices. Especially when she is very tired, she will just pass out staring at the screen close to 11pm. In my mind this is irresponsible parenting. Firstly, she is super tired but rallies then she is too tired in the morning and unable to get up and is late for her daycare program. Secondly, she is unable to move through her negative emotions (I usually rock her and sing to her if she is that upset and let her calm down on her own and she basically goes to bed). Thirdly, he makes it about me being a bad mother who is not in tune with what the child wants/needs. She picks up on it, and says things like "mommy you go away" and "I don't like you". I feel very sad but at the same time I imagine TV is just a beginning of the slippery slope.....if we don't teach her a "no" now where we have all control of things physically, it will become impossible in the future. Am I off base on this and too harsh to my child? Why is he not allowing her to have a disagreement or those emotions? Is there other ways he can soothe her - in my experience she needs to just move through this to accept it.... I am not able to do all bed time and be her primary care provider all the time due to work and younger sister that I am doing bedtime with at the same time when SO is with my eldest.

I just figured out why my mental health has gotten so much worse instead of better.
I've written extensively in reddit trauma subs about having a lifelong freeze/fawn trauma response, utilizing maladaptive daydreaming, being disassociated since childhood, and having disordered eating that I've mostly put into remission.
I even used to think for a time that there was another "entity" following me, as I'd perceive a disassociated part of myself hovering in space or across a room. When I realized that I'd spontaneously disassociate like that whenever I felt anxious, I focused on integrating myself.
That's only an extreme example of disassociation. I legit was in my 40s before I stopped oozing out of my body like that, but the learning disabilities and memory lapses have been life long. I'm only now tackling those in my late 50s!
My brain works better than it ever has, but holy fuck, I'm tired. I've had so much trauma, abandonment, cruelty, failure to launch, etc. built up over a lifetime, I've woke from a waking coma at nearly 60, and have to figure out how to "life" like a functioning adult.
....and I really understand why addicted people do not stop their drug and alcohol use. I work with an addict population, and I don't think its possible to understand why better than I do.
Alcohol killing your liver, but you keep drinking? Yup.
Lost a finger to skin popping, still doing coke and meth? Yup, yup, I fucking get it, damn.
The thing is, I can't go back to my addictions of behavior, other than my final ones that are still in my way: procrastination & executive function challenges. ADHD, or lifelong maladaptive defenses? I don't fucking know.
I do know that I have to change what I do, and how I think of myself.
Get out of low pay manual laboretail: Check.
Get competant & keep learning at current low pay professional position: Done.
Research career move job training for better pay: Procrastinating.
Think of self as competent in learning new skills: Yeah, got that.
Meet new people, don't show trauma history: sigh Learned the hard way, finally.
.....anyway, I am ripped clean of all of my lifetime of defenses. I am alone, I've tried support groups, I don't find them safe or supportive, I don't want to talk about this deeply vulnerable shit in them.
I've been treated pretty horribly by a past therapist, and I've realized that happens with therapists when they become annoyed with our trauma symptoms or lack of obvious improvement.
I feel reasonably safe showing my traumatized self exclusively on select reddit trauma subs.
I've learned the hard way that I can't talk to "friends." It's the fastest way to lose them. I'm not going to fuck up again with new acquaintances.
I'm learning that I don't want to talk about this to therapists. They cannot relate, and become judgmental eventually.
I've used mushrooms for medicine, but have not been able to integrate the experiences.
I'm thinking that if I continue to improve my life externally, while feeling this anguished and barren internally, I'm eventually going to do something epic level self destructive.
I wish I had something secure in my life to find comfort in, other than my replacement addiction of dumping time into reddit. You're my lifeline, guys.

My aerial rig is prominently established at the edge of town, everyone coming & going sees it & me up there, I'm an intermediate aerialist and have never earned a dime from this hobby, I've put thousands & thousands of dollars into it, and two decades of effort & passion. I just do it because it feels good.
But sometimes I get kind of grumpy when people stand around and stare and want to take pictures and videos
(especially yesterday a passerby asked if he could take photos of me while I was up in the air, of course he didn't know I was emotionally decompressing after babysitting some kid for free all day because her mom hadn't arranged any summer plans, I'm tired of working so hard my whole life and people never paying me)
I'm getting to the point where I'd prefer an appreciative audience would show their appreciation in the form of $$$ . Because I'm feeling drained.
Do you ever feel this way, and what do you do about it?

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I need to add context before I talk about the nightmare holiday. It's a long one because without it, it just kinda won't make sense. I probabaly wouldve got this off my chest ages ago but the sheer ammount of story telling seemed draining as talking about it makes me feel deflated and sad. It always pops up in my head though, think i just need to get it out
I have just turned 24 and my partner is 23, we have a 3yo together. I have ADHD and was only just diagnosed in January this year. I've been thought of as autistic too by counselors and as I've gotten older and more self aware, it's quite obvious that I am. I don't want a diagnosis for this though as it wouldn't change anything but add limitations due to the stigma and misconceptions surrounding it.
Im a stay at home mum and have been since i finished college at 21. Haveing a child has made symptoms more obvious and I heavily struggle with washing and putting clothes away due to sensory issues and with prioritising tasks, motivation etc Sometimes I can get overhwelemed by the sheer ammount of things to do that I shut down and fall behind. From the outside it can be perceived as laziness, to me I am battling myself and trying my hardest to get through each day. I also have complex ptsd and comes with that is permenant 24.7 depersonilsation which is its own hell, this makes me disconnected and feel dream like. Add on the over stimulation from lights, sounds, socialising etc this gets so bad that I can struggled getting around shopping centres. My brain turns to complete mush. All my issues and this made college HELL for me, I struggled so much and nearly got kicked out multiple times for each college due to awful attendance and falling behind severely. Idk how but I managed to walk away with 2 level 3 qualifications and a level 2. Working would be extremely difficult for me, when lo starts nursery in September I will look for a job but something that is part time and allows me to recuperate.
My partners never helped me, even during lockdown and paternity leave (4m off, lo was a newborn) I was healing from pregnancy (3rd degree stitches inside) and juggling a whole house (moved in 1 day before birth) and baby whilst he played his games everyday till 6am, wakeing up 1pm. I was so sleep deprived I was hallucaitng. He did nappies, I'd have to plead for him to clean a single dish or put his dish in the kitchen, put his wrappers in the bin and not stacking them up next to it, pissing on the floor in toilet. No matter how hard I begged and pleaded for help, he'd stonewall me. Laugh at me with his gamer friends on mic, tell his family I'm physco etc. 0 affection, only when he wants sex. Never a kiss, a touch, nothing.
When he started work, this became set in stone though. These things were no longer arguable, it was my job now. I communicated all the issues with my partner and his gameing addiction to mil because she kept saying that I was being controlling of lo and not allowing my partner the chance to bond, this pissed me off ALOT as I was begging him.. crying at him for help. Anyways as he started work and lo got older, things didn't exactly change but just became the norm. Mil would always bother the shit out of me with unsolicitled advice.. i'm breastfeeding for too long, makeing lo clingy, lo doesn't see her enough despite getting to see her 2x to 3x a week due to being down the road from us, I'm a mean mum for not giveing lo chocolate, I'm lean for not wanting people to smoke near her. Everything I want for my child was somehow me targeting her and stopping her from being a nana. His family members thought that I was controlling of lo because I don't allow mil the chance to bond with her due to no sleepover yet, that i don't allow lo over enough. I didn't give lo bottles to lo? I'm refusing mil the chance to bond. I'm refusing partner the chance to bond too despite makeing bottles for him and him only to give to lo, but him refusing because he's busy. Lo would only sleep if I put her to bed? Apparantly this is my fault, I made her too clingy and gave no one else the chance to do it despite begging partner to and him refusing.
I have openly called partner mentally and fincanially abusive and opened up about it due to the unfair judgments and comments I was receiving. Apparantly the issue lied with MY inability to communicate. (In the holiday my adhd and autism will be used as a means to gaslight in to thinking I'm the bad commutator, despite him being the one that refuses to even achlowledge me) they would always find every excuse under the sun to justify his behaviour because he's their perfect boy, the youngest.
Lo is now 3yo, she goes round to mils every Sunday unless somethings on that day. She still hasn't slept over but I don't see the need for it yet. I've brought up issues with her and stand my ground. Things are more settled, partner still does fuk all in the house but we've found more of a balance. He plays with lo more now and I got to out for the first time to see my friends and go out clubbing, she stayed with him for the whole night and was the first time she went down without me there. (This wasn't always my choice tho)
Mil has pissed me right off, many times.but she has done a lot for us, drove me many times to see my family who are further away. Helped me get back and fourth when my grandad was dying, payed for things for us, got us shopping, drove me shopping etc. I stayed with partner at mil and fils house, I'd catch the college bus from there. And his family are also nice, I just think I've been painted quite negativley which they've gone off. She's not all bad.
The holiday.
It's a large building in the countryside, 12 rooms which fit the 23 people going (7 were kids) it was mil, fil, partners 2 brothers and their partners, mils dad and mum, her brother and his gf, mils 2 sisters and their partners, and 1 of their kids who is a teenager brought their partner. As u come in to the building there's a pub which we stocked so as the day time was comeing to end and kids went to bed, drinking started. I had a drink the first night, didn't the 2nd.
Things were great for the first 2 days. Come the 3rd day and shit went down, it was the day I found out everyones true feelings about me, I've never felt so gaslight and bullied in my entire life (even despite being heavily bullied in school and abused at home).
It was about 9pm & we were all quite drunk at this point. I was less as I stayed sober until lo went to bed which was a lot later than the other kids. Partner doesn't drink so he was stone cold sober. We had to keep going up and checking I lo was alright as we didn't have a monitor and we were on the top floor near lots of stairs.
We were doing kareoke and I was really happy and relaxed. As I walked past partner who was playing darts with his brother (1) (who I need to add, has no kids and is 26 still living with mil) he called me over and told me to go check lo. idk what come over me but I said, no I've done every night of every day of her life. Let me have a break for once. (I have only seen my friends twice in 4yrs due to him being insecure, arguing against me leaving lo etc. Drinking is rare for me so I just wanted to relax and switch off just a bit) Partner didn't say anything, the brother turned round and said "no, I'm sorry but I don't agree with that" I say "what do u mean?" He goes "he works, he gives u a roof over ur head, food on the table. He works everyday to provide for u and lo and what do u bring to the table?" I just stood there for a moment processing what he justt implied and already feeling drained by the idea of if I go "I'm grew and raised lo, i maintain and house and have basicly sacrificed and given up everything to do it" he responds with "so u don't bring anything then? Because u don't do the washing, u never clean the house and being a sahm is a walk in the park to doing his job everyday" I stood there and just walked away.
I went to the bar and sat on the stool, I just felt really hurt especially as my partner just listened and nodded in agreement to everything. Psrtners brother (2) was makeing drinks (he has a 2m old). Mils brothers gf was sat on the stool next to me. I basicly just started crying, I couldnt hold it. I was just sad af. I basiy repeated what brother (1) had said and tried justifying myself and explaining why he's wrong and that despite falling behind on things at times I truly try. It's not fair to say I don't bring anything to the table when I could use the same logic and say be doesn't bring much to the table as a dad, bringing in money doesn't add more value to him and less to me. And was just saying it's always me who is made out to be unappreciative of him, when all I've done is show appreciation whilst he never has and has verbally told me he doesn't. They weren't mean they were trying to stay neutral and not add fuel to the fire which was fine.
Brother (1) gf comes over to see what's going on. I repeat everything i told them and everything else to her. She goes "no no no, I'm gonna stop you right there. I havnt talked to you much and only hear what's going on from other people, I'm gonna tell you straight what I think" She is shouting all of this at me quite aggressively. Me: "okay" im a little confused tho Her: "No. Don't speak, let me finish" Me: "okay" Her: repeats what b1 was saying "WHAT DO U BRING TO THE TABLE, UR ALWAYS COMPLANING ABOUT HIM BUT U DO FUK ALL" Me: "But thats not fair -" Her: "NO LET ME SPEAK, NO, NO,NO" Me: "but what ur saying isn't fair" Her: repeats everything b1 said to me Me: still trying to speak but she keeps saying no over me and saying shut up. Mils brothers gf starts saying to the gf, let her speak (eventually she and everyone listening will tell me that it was me who wouldn't let her speak and was aggressive first) Me: I start raising my voice to try and over power hers in hopes of her hearing me and letting me defend myself. I'm trying to say the same things I said before and hseing the same logic but turned round on partner to try and get them to relise how unfair what they were saying to me was.
Mil comes STORMING in from the other room and starts screaming at me to shut and telling me that I always talk badly about her son when ive had a drink (that's not true. The last time I spoke about him was because he stormed off and ran away from the house because he thought I said something sexual to his brother in a group convo about shoes 🥴. Another time was when one of aunties ASKED me and tried getting gossip out of me. Its not even negative but the truth) Fil comes in and starts on me, partner comes and says I agree with what's being said but u all need to calm down. I'm basicly crying my eyes out and they all keep it going, I'm now repeating that I didn't start it I just felt hurt about what b(1) said to me. Mil hears what he said to me and agrees to, saying u don't appreciate partner.
Eventually she goes and things die down, I'm still really upset. I go outside to vape and get some fresh air, b(1) comes out to talk and said he was out of order but that I don't do enough at home. I ipen up about my struggles with adhd and autism and how what seems nothing to them, is harder for me. I'm trying my hardest and the house isn't even messy at all, its fine I just struggle with washing. We basicly end up chatting about random stuff after and yh.
I go back in and I try talk to b(1) gf who I see is playing pool with the uncles gf. I say can we squash it, play pool with you and be friends? she kicks off and says no, I don't like you and I don't agree with you etc. She starts shouting again, really load. I snap and say FUK YOU Mil STORMS in worse than before and pushes her body against mine, I'm taller so she raised her head and pushes it close to mine. I can feel her breath, she points her finger to me and screams about how I woke her dad up with MY screaming (it wasn't me it was b(1) gf and she knew this) she is still going and I just stare her dead in the eye, my breathing is calm and I didn't move an inch. I was abused physically, mentally and emotionally at home so I started to withdraw. Apparantly everyome thinks I'm being aggressive towards mil now but I'm not reacting. Partner had the audacity to grab me and try and pull ME away from her, I try yanking myself away and say get off me, I've literally done fuk all this whole night and then u pull me away as if im the one being aggressive and instigating?
I go back outside to vape and listen to music because im just sad af at the point, i hide on a bench where it's pitch black and zone out staring at the views and the lights from the towns in the distance. I start getting yelled at, called a wanker, an attention seeker etc. I eventually come in at this point, if anyone spoke to me I'd just ball it. Everyone was calling me selfish for still being awake because I should go to bed and sleep it off. I just needed to be alone and needed the peace and fresh air.
I walk in to the living room and see gf 1 is chatting with partner, twisting something I told her a while ago. I said a guy from college messaged me that I used to fancy, I ignored him but wanted to try and disconnect my Facebook from my partners phone incase he got jealous and funny with me. Even after deleting the message I was still really worried because he is quite jealous, I was worried about gim getting a message notification. She basicly made out that I wanted to meet him up and cheat. She thought my partner should know the secret she had been keeping to herself.. 😐 5mins later she goes to brother (2) and tries touching him and flirting with the mils brother, everyone saw it and spoke about it the day after. But not as much as how apparantly wanted to cheat on partner.
Eventually I went to bed.
The next day I didn't come downstairs, I didn't eat etc. Not because I didn't want food but because I didn't want to see or be round any of them and going to the kitchen meant I had to do that. Mil came to the room and never apologised but stood there saying.. well I don't appreciate partner, he was playing darts with his brother and it was your turn to check lo. I said yes maybe I should've just gone up but I just needed a break in that moment, i wanted to switch off. Maybe I was wrong for saying it but what b(1) said was disgusting. She goes well partner doesn't get to switch off, apparantly him going out multiple times a week to football and spending all his free time after work isn't time to himself but winding down. That its wrong for me to expect him to give me any money for train tickets to see my friends because I need to fund fun things myself. That its wrong to ask my money to do anything and I should just be happy staying at home and going to the same park with lo. Basicly saying all my labour is for everyone else but all his is for himself and he deserves more respect etc. Trying to give me parent advice, how I should change my routine etc how its my fault me and partner don't spend quality time together because I don't give up lo enough. How I'm the reason partner has worries about me going out with friends because I give him reasons to (I never ever have) and uses what the brothers gf said. That if i have these struggles that I just need to go doctor and get fixed because he pulls his weight and I don't pull mine. That I don't listen to people, everyone's tying to help me and I'm stubborn and won't take anyone's advice etc. How I blame partner for all our issues when its also on me and I need to communicate better, despite me being the one begging for a simple no or yes from him.
Everyone is telling me that it was the drinks and I was in the wrong too by saying the things i did. That I started being aggressive and rude to the gf first, everyone who witnessed how she wouldnt let me say even a word and how she was shouting at me first.. all now said it was me.
That I use my adhd and autism as way to get sympathy and justify being lazy, I just heed go the doctors and sort my head out. That I'm the one who comes across really closed off and blunt when all everyone wants to do is help, I push everyone away. That I'm really closed off and don't agree with everyone trying trying insert themselves other people's relationships is wrong, they are an open family and are only trying to help as they don't want to see us break up.
Yh.
They go out and fly kites with the kids, I go down to do it with lo. Afterwards brothers gf comes up to me and says I'm sorry for how I said everything last night, but not for what I said. I snapped and started going in on her. She says I lie about him being abusive and I victimise myself, I use all my issues as an excuse to make people feel sorry for me to get away with doing the bare minimum. That if she ever had kids she'd make sure she was working first and I'm a bad partner for haveing a baby before I sorted myself out. That I shouldn't expect partner to have lo to go out, I expect too much from him because he works and I don't do anything.
Yh no. I snapped back and used the times she faked pregnancies to keep brother 1, the times she would cause chaos because he had friends that were girls on Facebook. How she took phycoclogy yet has the audacity to tell me I'm lying about my issues etc. Her nickname is " physco *name: so whenever she spoke I kept saying it. I went.. its not nice when someone won't let u speak is it? And kept doing it until she left me alone. She went in and screamed to everyone about me, how she came to kindly apologise and I was horrible to her.
When we got home I havnt looked at the family or anyone else since. I didn't put down the things they said in full but it was basicly me stood there as all these people watched in agreement as they went in on me and disrespected me as a mum, a person with mental health issues and just as a bloody human. I hate them all. It was genunaly the worse night of my entire life and the day after was just as bad. The way everyone was gaslighting me and trying to get in my head twist things. It's all my pushed under the rug because its just a bad night of drinking. It wasn't just a bad night, not only did they show their true colors and thoughts about me but full on targeted me.
I would love to move and be a single mum, but I can't drive in a place that requires me to do so to get the jobs. (Bus routes are bad where I am) I feel utterly trapped. I'd need a low stimulating job too. It's just shit. With the adhd and the fact I require changes to my enviroment to function but can't get out or have money to do anything, I feel like I'm drowning in expectations, judggyness, chaos, and the same rooms and closing in on me and I fe suffocated. I don't want to feel this way, I feel like I just have pain and hurt knocking me down all through my life. If I could get on a plane and live alone with lo, find a job suitable for what I can keep up with I would. I feel like it's completley out of my reach though and Im stuck.
Btw if anyone actually read all this, damn 🤣 I just really needed to get it all off my chest weather it be heard by anyone or not.

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We are replacing our C2 Cat and Dog that we've had for twelve years after a motor went on us. We've decided to replace instead of repair. Our home is all hardwood and tile. The most I'd want to pay is C$700, although anything less would be a bonus.
I'll either be replacing with another C2 (although our dog is gone so I don't need that option) or a C3. Both Canadian Tire and Costco are selling those options in my area, and Miele online has some options.
My first question is about attachments. I have a parquet hardwood floor attachment from our old vacuum. We also have a variety of other accessories that came with our old vacuum. Are they still interchangeable with new models?
I also would like to know how much physically larger or heavier the C3 is than the C2. I like the C2 for size, but I wouldn't mind a larger bag capacity with the C3. That said, if it is much larger, I'd prefer to compactness of the C2.
My options right now are as follows:

• Complete C3 Excellence SDGEO w/ SEB 217-3 tool: $699 marked down from $949, avaialble at both Miele online, Costco online, and Canadian Tire
  
• Complete C3 Limited Edition PowerLine - SGDE0 - w/ SEB 217-3 hardwood tool, $699 at both Miele online and Canadian Tire
  
• Miele Compact C2 Hard Floor Canister Vacuum, w/ universal floor head, $499 at Costco online
  
• Miele Complete C3 Carpet & Pet Canister Vacuum, w/ STB 305-3, SBD 365-3, Upholstery nozzle, Crevice nozzle, Dusting brush, $459 at Costco online
  

Any info you folks may be able to provide would be very welcome.