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2017.11.14 10:55 omermerG when animals get frens!
if a dog gets a puppy, it belongs here! you can also submit any animal that gets another animal!
2013.02.03 20:31 qweswr2 Cats in pants: the real reason you should bring your phone to the bathroom
This is a community where you can post pictures of cats in your pants while you go to the bathroom, It's that simple. OC content only.
2023.03.26 10:02 ron-tints Im determined to see the northern lights and can’t really do it other than June-September
I’m planning a trip from june-September (2023) too see the northern lights. I’ve tried to search the internet and various forums but, cannot find any accurate information on: where to go When to go And the probability of seeing them when I go….. If anyone can let me know these things through; personal experience or a percentage of my probability to see them (in whatever place/time) in June- September. I would be great full for any information!
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2023.03.26 10:02 SecretsOfTaoism The Taoist Secret of Authenticity: Below you'll find the Experience of Being Face to Face with the Tao. What's the point of having a story to mislead the self, in order to protect the self's sense of self? None at all. The Tao is not capable of lying. Or of telling the truth. It can only be the Tao.
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2023.03.26 10:02 AutoModerator [Get] Biaheza – Dropshipping Course (COMPLETE)
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2023.03.26 10:02 AutoModerator [Share Course] Dan Koe – Digital Economics Masters Degree
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Phase 2) Content Strategy There is one thing that separates those who make it in the digital economy and those who don’t.It’s the quality, articulation, and perceived originality of their content.The content you post has to make sense to the people you attract.Everyone has a different voice and tone that they resonate with. That they are congruent with and trust.It has to change their thought patterns or behavior — that’s what makes you memorable.That’s what separates you from the sea of people posting surface-level copy-cat style posts.Example and putting my money where my mouth is: - Become an expert-level speaker or writer on the topics you care about.
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2023.03.26 10:01 bamboo_fanatic Mother convinced me we need to rehome our dog but it’s killing me
My mother is chronically ill, she wanted a second dog to cuddle with and keep our other dog, Angel, company. We got Sasha from the shelter 6 months ago. She seemed very calm at first and we were told that was her general temperament, we were not told how recently she’d been spayed and how that would affect her short term behavior (we’ve always adopted adult dogs and never so shortly after a surgery). The following days she started to change as she recovered, getting more and more active and energetic to the point we’d say she was in crackhead mode. She had kennel cough, we get it cleared up, and she ramped up even further. I didn’t even know it was possible for a 10lb Lhasa Apso to be so high-energy.
I’ve never managed to really tire her out, even on a day when I took her for 7 miles of walks, you wouldn’t have known she’d been walked at all from her behavior. She’s calmed down a little, now she can be calm for a couple hours at a time without constantly bringing toys to play fetch and tug or licking and nudging until you pet her (she’ll only cuddle as long as you keep petting). Chew toys can keep her occupied, but she has such strong jaws, she’ll finish a bully stick in less than an hour, I was probably spending over $60 a month just on chews at first (she gets bored of the non-edible ones). I spend hours a day exercising her, a couple of walks but mainly fetch and tug because those seem to have more of an effect. She’ll entertain herself in the yard, but we have to constantly watch to make sure she doesn’t start going after the potted plants because she saw a lizard or eating bark or digging at the flowers.
It’s really stressing my mother out, which makes her health conditions worse. Sitting in the yard was one of her favorite things to do, but she says needing to constantly monitor Sasha has ruined it. She’s still very good to Sasha, spending time with her outside, throwing her toy, giving her lots of affection, but still complains to me a lot and guilts me when I spend too much time away from the house and leaving her to take care of Sasha. Angel was fine the first few days we had Sasha, but as she got more energetic, the more she bothered Angel. That’s improved, Angel doesn’t snap at her when she annoys her too much, but I think she’s still depressed and hates us for bringing Sasha, she’s become more aloof, spending most of her time an a different room from us, probably avoiding Sasha. My mother and I both think it would make all the difference if she had another dog to play with, she still keeps trying to play with Angel even though Angel has never reciprocated.
It’s just that Sasha is also the sweetest dog, so affectionate and goofy, she looks like a living teddy bear. I’ve never had a dog who will be on my lap and then crane her head back to stare at me like she does. If you stand and pan your legs, she’ll run up, jump on your legs, and lay her head between your knees so you can pet her. Sometimes she’ll just come up and plop on top of my feet for a belly rub. I keep crying at the thought of losing her, I don’t know anyone to take her and I’m worried she’s end up in a home where they’d mistreat her because they got frustrated by her energy and how distressed she’d probably be from losing us.
TL;DR: we need to rehome our dog because she’s stressing out my chronically ill mother and older dog, and we think she’d be a lot better if she had another dog to play with, but the thought of losing her and how sad she’d be to lose us is still making me cry.
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2023.03.26 10:00 SaxoGrammaticus1970 [DA2 Spoilers] [DAO Spoilers] I just finished my DA2 playthrough. Here are my thoughts/review.
Disclaimer: I tried to write this as spoiler-free as possible. If you feel there are spoilers below, please tell me and I'll make my best effort to remove such. However, please feel free to put any DAO or DA2 spoilers in your comments if you deem it convenient. Thanks in advance. I just finished playing DA2, with both story DLCs (Legacy and Mark of the Assassin), and it took me about 87 hours for this playthrough. I played on Easy/Casual difficulty. My Hawke was a male warrior. I played DA2 straight after finishing my first playthrough of DAO, where I also played a male warrior.
A large part of this review is lifted from a comment I made
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I've read lots of comments and reviews that said that DA2 is not that great of a game in comparison to DA:O and DA:I. As for the lattter, I have no opinion, of course; but after playing both Origins and 2, I sincerely think that DA2 is a great game on its own right, and provides great entertaiment. Given that reportedly developers had just one year to finish it, the extent of their achievement is nothing short of amazing. They really pulled it off.
The combat feels more streamlined and easier to manage than Origin. As a casual player, I never got tactics in Origins, and I still didn't get them in DA2; but given my difficulty level I could manage without them.
The story seems generally very well written, and there are some really good moments. However, there are some plot details that only could pass muster in a rushed game. This was especially apparent in the main plot quests which finished Act 2, and the polarizing event at the start of the endgame. The writers could perhaps achieve something similar but with more believable plot points. But then, they had little time and maybe they had to rush in this area, too... Some parts really shone through, such as the poignant Legacy epilogue, for example.
The banter amoung your party members is nice, and sometimes downright hilarious; that was definitely a plus for me.
People say that locations are reused, and yes, they are, but I don't feel that as detracting. This is because most locations are really well designed for the most part and thus, reusing a good thing is not that much of a problem, at least for me
The romance options feel a little bit limited, at least if you're a straight guy playing a straight dude Hawke (as I did). But they are nice. The brothel stuff also felt useless. Why go there and spend coin just for the privilege of seeing Hawke on his back, zipping his pants? And, echoing the complaint about limited romance options, there's just so few ladies at the brothel (and don't mention the details of a somewhat surprising worker there...)
My biggest criticisms would be the stupid inventory limit (even lower than DAO). I'm tired of managing inventory. The dialogue wheel seemed nice, but there are no documented keyboard shortcuts for the dialogue wheel: I had to use the mouse for that. Also, some dialogue options completely different to what Hawke really says or intends to.
The game starts quite strong; but, as the game progresses, the gameplay becomes repetitive; there are some quests where you just have to go from point A to point B, and you have to fight enemies on the way.
Technically speaking, there is the enormous flaw that this game is the first in the series that forced me to install that evil stupid EA Launcher in order to play it (I played Origins after I purchased it from GOG, so no DRM for it).
You have the option to use either DX9 or DX11 as the rendering engines. DX9 had the broadest compatibility; I was able to duplicate my screen into a giant-screen TV in DX9, but I ran into various problems doing that in DX11; the downside was that the game was much more crash-prone. On the other hand, if I just played on my laptop screen, DX11 worked much better and was more stable; but the game still crashed on me sometimes.
Also, it should be noted that I was able to play it on 1080p with reasonably good framerate on High settings, even though my PC is technically a glorified potato (good specs but Intel UHD 620 integrated GPU).
The soundtrack was really nice. I'd have liked to get it, even though looks like the Ultimate Edition on Steam doesn't offer it.
Finally, I drooled over Bethany 😍 (please don't kill me!).
As you might guess, the balance is positive and if you like Dragon Age: Origins, or a good old action RPG, you should like DA2. Getting it would be money well spent.
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2023.03.26 10:00 AutoModerator CHAT Community Thread - Sun Mar 26
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2023.03.26 09:59 AmboBod92 My girlfriend [27f] has gone MIA on a girls trip and I [31m] worry about how blackout drunk she gets. TL;DR Girlfriend MIA, feels disrespectful
So, starting from the start my girlfriend [27f] and I [31m] have been together since September 2020. Things were going amazingly but I started to notice her pulling away, she had a problem with drinking where she couldn’t drink without getting blackout drunk, it felt very one sided, she wasn’t interested in sex, poor communication and generally very hot and cold. One big point was that we both got drunk at a wedding and that night we slept together, I know I was drunk but I can remember it, she to this day says she doesn’t remember. Another example was a new years before we were together where she got so drunk and woke up naked next to a guy in bed and has no memory of how it happened. It came to loggerheads around April ‘22 and we broke up. It was my decision because when conversing about the issues, it was all turned on me, or things like the drinking were ‘that’s just how I drink’.
We spoke a couple of months later and decided to give it another go. We spoke about communication and honesty, I put those boundaries in place. It was good for the next 6 months or so until around December ‘22 where she became really hot and cold, I was having to instigate all conversations, blunt replies, sex was off the cards again etc. Over the next few months this was on and off. On my birthday she got so blackout drunk it was a challenge to get her back to mine, she vomited everywhere and told me to ‘fck off’ and ‘you’re such a dck’, (which is normal for her to be verbally abusive when that drunk), refused to let me help her get sorted for bed and eventually slept in her clothes. In the morning it was like nothing had happened and when she gets this drunk there is no memory of the night before.
This weekend she went on a girls trip within the country to a holiday park. I heard from her on Friday and when I got to work about 0830 I said for her to have a safe trip and to let me know when she is in the taxi on the way there. Next I hear from her is a video of a drink at 1630, I reply but don’t hear back. That night I messaged to say I was off to sleep and that I hope she has a good night and that I loved her. She reads this at 0030 but nothing, complete radio silence. Fast forward to the next day and I’ve still heard nothing, I message her saying ‘you alive? Haha’ again, she reads it but radio silence. I message about 1830 saying I’m a bit concerned and can she just let me know she is safe. I get a response! But it’s just a video of guys on a dance floor, still radio silence.
I don’t expect full conversations but am I wrong to think it’s just basic respect and communication to let me know she is safe? Even just ‘sorry we’ve been out all day and night but I’m safe!’
TL;DR Girlfriend gets super drunk and goes MIA, is it basic respect to let me know she is safe?
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2023.03.26 09:59 pineapple_pie_ I work with a small skincare brand and here's the tea!🍮
Hey guys! I want to share my experience and insights while working with a small newly launched skincare brand.
I want to share what goes on behind the scenes at these brands. I can't reveal the brands name for privacy reasons, but it's not a brand that's known on this sub.
So I work in marketing and recently got this new client which is a small skincare brand. They are new in the market. They sell the same stuff as 100 other indian brands- serum, body lotion etc, while focusing on natural chemical free blah blah🤮🥱
So here's the tea- 🍮
The founders don't know much about skincare, they think that a foot scrub can cure cracked feet or vitamin C is a natural sunscreen 💩😹💀
No product trials have been done. God knows if the products actually work. They most probably get the product from some low quality manufacturer and slap the brand label on them, calling it a "insert fancy serum name" and selling it online for 900 bucks. There is definitely no research and development going on.
What I find totally frustrating is the "entitlement"!!!! They think that once they hire a marketing team and start advertising for their sub par product, money will start raining on them.
My takeaway -
Don't buy from these smaller brands. Most of them only invest in marketing- beautiful product shots, social media, influencers etc. Research and development is forgotten and pushed aside. Many of these brands are run by money hungry founders looking to make a quick buck out of the skincare trend.
I am not against Indian brands and want to support them. But unfortunately there are no laws in our country that will catch these exploiters and these kinds of brands. My skin is precious so I will not be an experiment rat. I will stick to k beauty and pharmacy skincare.
Thank you for reading my story.
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2023.03.26 09:58 bella9797 Worked 6 days in a row, one day off and asked to work tomorrow. Got a phone call from my dad who works at the same company yelling at me to work. I hate my life.
No one ever thinks of me. Im fucking tired and being asked to work after already doing overtime and then my dad calls yelling at me to work and saying it’s so rude if I don’t work and too bad if I worked 6 days in a row, I need to ‘think about the business’ like I give a f. He lives and breathes work and needs a hobby but now I need to go or when I see him again he will yell at me in person and I can’t take that. Sick of the effing yelling.
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2023.03.26 09:57 itmechacha101 lMy(25F) partner(26M) discusses important decisions regarding our little family with his parents instead of me.
This is about to be quite long so I apologise in advance, but I wanted to add as much detail as I could.
My partner (26M), my daughter (1 this Friday) and I (25F) recently moved overseas to live with his parents. The plan was to live here until the beginning of next year, and then move back to my country- a decision we both made. I want to move back so I can get qualifications and actually figure out what I want to do with my life. Where we are living now, there are literally no options for me as his parents are my sponsors to live here and they need me to work in their shop (cafe during the day, fish and chips restaurant at night).
A few nights ago we were having a couple of drinks and my partner decided to ask his parents to live in one of their family homes. This home hasn't been lived in for years, it's overgrown and has absolutely no furniture or appliances or anything. This would mean we need to save up for a lot of expensive necessities (fridge, freezer, bed etc) that would probably at least take half a year as I don't make much at his family's shop. He would be fishing probably everyday and he would make decent money. In saying that, if he's asking to live in their family home, he plans on staying here much longer than we had decided, which was the first big blow.
Last night we were once again having a couple of drinks, and his mum said she was on her last one. She had maybe had about 3 vodka and coke at that point but she said she wants to get her health in order so she can see her grandbabies grow up and get married. That was when my partner laughed and said "you won't even get to see your son get married," in reference to himself. This was the second big blow because we have been together for 6 years, and always talked about getting married. He even went as far as to ask my brother (just got married last year) about engagement rings.
The last big blow probably isn't as dramatic as I feel it is, but with everything adding up I feel so hurt that he isn't talking to me. Our daughter will be 1 on Friday, and I have been planning her birthday for months. I have tried to get him in on the planning but he always complains he's too tired, he can't think right now etc. So I made the plans, told him about them, and got him to confirm. I've been telling him about all the different foods I will make to go with the BBQ that he is supposed to cook. That is literally the only thing he has to do for the birthday, I will do everything else. I asked him tonight what meat he plans on putting on the BBQ and he just told me "oh, we're not going to do a BBQ, I'm just going to do fish and chips." I asked him why he didn't tell me, and he said he and his parents were just discussing it this morning when I was angry at him. This just made me even angrier, as I am her mother, I'm the one who has been doing all the hard work in raising my daughter this year, and he made decisions with his parents about her birthday, when they literally have only been in her life for two seconds.
I have no idea what to do or say about this, if I even do say something. This has been an ongoing problem in our relationship - he will make decisions and I end up looking stupid because I have absolutely no idea what's going on. When his family plans events they go straight to him which I understand, but he doesn't pass the message on to me and it makes me feel like an idiot for having no clue about anything.
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2023.03.26 09:56 draft_wagon I have finally succeeded in giving up this habit and I want to share some thoughts in case this helps someone.
I used to be an active poster here. Every Ramadan I would join and share my struggles. Every Ramadan I would lose some fasts. Get better. Relapse. Repeat. I tried everything that everyone suggests on this post. Making dua. Praying. Doing dhikr. Staying in wudu. Would make it months some times and eventually, still relapse. I have seen posts here from people who relapsed after YEARS. I hate to say it but that would discourage me so much, knowing that there are people out there who have tried and succeeded for so long and then caved. You can say all you want that if you relapse once you should make tauba and start over again but anyone who has relapsed knows that the feeling of shame can be so intense that it feels impossible. You just feel like you will never get rid of this curse.
What helped me get over it something more philosophical. It eventually came down to asking myself a simple question. Am I really a Muslim?
Ask yourself this. Are you a Muslim? I asked myself this and thought about my life. The way I was brought up. They way I act in day to day life. The way I behave. The way i approach major decisions in life.
These are tough questions to answer when you think about them deeply. After pondering I realized that while I think I am a Muslim, I only show it with my words, not by actions.
I pray. I fast. So why is it so hard to quit this habit. The reason is that it's not just this habit. It's everything.
Islam means "submission to the will of Allah". Am I submitting to the will of Allah? Do I consider His command in every aspect of my life. The answer was a clear no.
The issue of masturbation is not the most serious one. It's just the most obvious one. The most taboo one. It's the one we feel most shame about. But I felt like I should feel more shame for other things.
I realized I am weak man. A Muslim man, but a weak Muslim man. And everyone around me is a weak Muslim man too. Muslim men you need to hear this. We have become weak. Not just because we can't stop masturbating, but because we cannot do anything that strong Muslim men are supposed to do.
I look around me and 90% of Muslim households, men have no control over their families. Their wives and daughters wall around without hijabs and they cannot and do not say anything. We convince ourselves that this is a "personal decision". If we push them to do this, we will be oppressive.
We don't have the ability to guide our wives and children in a loving way. How many Muslim men pray with their wives regularly. Feed them with their own hands like the prophet did. Show them love and affection and patience like a strong Muslim man is supposed to. Like our prophet saw and his companions. It's easier to take a liberal stand and feel proud that our wives and daughters pray at least and dress relatively modestly.
We don't teach out son's to be strong men. We don't teach them to lower their gaze. We are more focused on watching our son's excel in sports and careers. If we were strong men, we would be raising strong sons who never get into these habits.
I could go on and on but I realized that masturbation is a by product of a society where men have become weak. Weak to control their own desires, weak to lead to their families, weak to make tough decisions for the betterment of society and betterment of their families.
I looked at what happened in Iran with the hijab issue. What is going on? It's crazy. One of the last Muslim societies that was proudly following the hijab and all of a sudden it all fell apart. Women are proudly taking their hijabs off in the name of equal rights and Muslim men are standing right beside them and supporting them. The state is taking excessive action and harming their own citizens. There is no right in this situation. Everyone is wrong. And how did we get there? Because of weak men.
Allah made us amirs of our households. And look what we did. Instead of focusing on our own families, our own wives and sons and daughters, we like to sit around and talk politics and how Islamic society is falling apart. Islamic society is falling apart because of US. If we all focused on our own homes, if we all encouraged a modest lifestyle at home, we wouldn't be in this situation. It's time to take an honest look at ourselves. Stop following your own version of Islam, as there is only ONE version of Islam.
Have some self respect. Have some dignity. Look at the Sunnah and seerah of the prophet, how was he at home, how he lived his life and we will realize that he was a strong man. It requires showing patience at the toughest of times, affection when you may feel anger, control when you feel desires. Why? Because we follow Islam which means "submission to the will of Allah".
This next part is controversial:. When I realized and learned this lesson, I decided to change my life. I told myself I was going to be a strong man, and it started at home. I stopped masturbating but that's not enough. Because if I don't fix my life elsewhere, if I don't become strong in other ways, then I will remain weak and one day, I will succumb to my weakness.
I told my wife she has to start wearing the hijab. I encouraged her politely, showered her with affection, gave her time. I did everything I could and I realized I wasn't getting through. I asked myself what am I supposed to do in this situation? What would a strong man do? Being physical was not an option. So what do I do.
I spoke to my wife one last time in a polite way. Long conversation about how this was important because I want my daughter to wear the hijab as well and she won't wear it if her mother doesn't. We spoke for an hour and I asked her in the end "will you be wearing it from now". She said "I will try".
I felt a rage like never before. Wallahi I felt something in my mind that I've never felt before. My brain was going too fast for me. In my mind I kept hearing "what are you going to do now? Are you going to pick your wife, or are you going to submit to the will of Allah".
So I told my wife, right then and there that I was divorcing her. First of the three. I said it. Then I said to her that since I've said it, it's done and the only way to reverse it is to take it back within a month, otherwise we are done Islamically. I saw a fear in her eyes I have never seen before. She was finally seeing the implications. I wasn't hurt, I felt nothing. In my mind, it was just a decision to make between her and Allah. It was for the future of my children. And I picked Allah.
She started wearing it and while she was nervous at first, she got comfortable very quick. I took the divorce back. Our love and affection grew so much. Immediately I noticed that men in our family treated her differently, with a little more respect and privacy. I adored the fact that nobody got to see her beauty the way I did any more. My house feels blessed. I have never felt the desire to masturbate since. There are SO many things I could mention that I felt were a blessing from Allah.
My point is not to go and divorce your wives. My point is that masturbation is a by product of us men being weak. In the name of liberalism, we have destroyed Islamic society, Islamic culture. We are scared to speak up. 90% of Muslim men believe that hijab is a choice. If you feel that way about a woman's hijab then you probably feel that way about your own hijab. You feel no need to lower your gaze and you are a weak man.
Be strong men. Be strong in every decision you face. Don't take out an interest based loan just to appease your family with a nice house, Instead be strong and explain to them why this will only cause harm. Show love and affection to your wife so that she WANTS to cover herself from the world and only expose herself to you. Be strong and stop looking at women who Allah has not created for you. If you do, don't be surprised if your married life starts falling apart later on.
Being strong is not just about lifting weights, having a strong career and respect. It's about enforcing an Islamic lifestyle for your family. You need to be strong to do that. And if you are not even strong enough to stop masturbating, then you will not be strong enough to make other tough decisions in your life for the sake of Allah.
Stop jerking off. Be strong. Have patience and faith that Allah has created a beautiful wife just for you, and watching some trashy pornstar on your 6" phone screen will never come even close to it. You're watching these women, what if the punishment for this is really severe? We have to raise strong Muslim daughters. And we are jerking off to pornstars on our phone? You see where I am going with this. It crossed my mind. What if the punishment for this is that our Muslim daughters start doing things like this? Who would be to blame? It would be us, the men. Who enjoyed such things and also failed to teach out daughters the right way. And believe it or not, Muslim daughters ARE doing this right now. Unbeknownst to their parents, Muslim girls are doing crazy things on TikTok, in private messages etc. Wallahi there is nothing scarier for me than this. I cannot comprehend this, and once I realized this, it became much easier to quit.
Don't be a weak man. Be a strong Muslim man. Be a leader for your family. For your wife, for your parents, for your children. Inspire them with your Islamic leadership, be a role model to them. Make the tough decisions that Allah wants us to make for his sake and he will inshallah reward you for it, he did for me.
Be strong brothers. Think of Muhammad saw, and abu bakr, and Ali, and Umar, and Hassan and Hussain. These are our role models. And just think about their sacrifices. And then think about how much strength it took for them to go through what they did. And what is our challenge? To not masturbate? And we cannot even do that. Shame on us.
I know this sub is usually a soft minded sub but wallahi, sometimes we all need a stern reminder. The soft messaged didn't work for me. I apologize if this offended anyone, but Im telling you my life has improved significantly since I adopted this mindset. I as a man am responsible for my family and I sure cannot do a good job of that if I'm masturbating in the bathroom half the time.
I live peacefully now. It's not even a temptation anymore. Because I know I'm stronger than that.
May Allah preserve my strength and give everyone the strength to overcome this habit.
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2023.03.26 09:56 FreeOcalan78 Lawyer describes Öcalan’s prison conditions, condemns international organisations. Abdullah Öcalan’s last contact with the outside world was on 25 March 2021 in the form of an interrupted phone call with his brother.
| SOURCE https://preview.redd.it/xuggqfgxh1qa1.jpg?width=1140&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=07a4d7b59ec309dac9815ba4b8cda2388f50c901 Kurdistan Workers’ Party (PKK) leader Abdullah Öcalan’s last contact with the outside world was on 25 March 2021 in the form of an interrupted phone call with his brother. Since then, the absolute and aggravated isolation of Öcalan and the three other detainees, Hamili Yıldırım, Ömer Hayri Konar and Veysi Aktaş, in Turkey’s İmralı Island Prison has continued. Medya News asked lawyer Raziye Öztürk from the Asrın Law Office about the extent of the unlawfulness in İmralı. While summarising the current situation, she called on the European institutions whose duty it is to protect human rights to fulfil their duties and to use their legal power against the isolation conditions in İmralı Island Prison which is a violation of international law. Could you give us some insights into the İmralı Island Prison? As you know, Mr Öcalan was brought to İmralı Island Prison in 1999 after being captured by an international conspiracy. İmralı Prison was previously a semi-open prison before it was emptied in February 1999, the time of Öcalan’s abduction. It was then re-engineered as a high-security and one-person prison. With Öcalan’s arrival, the area around the island was declared a forbidden zone from air, land and sea. Since its establishment, İmralı Prison has been governed discriminatingly, extraordinarily, and inhumanely, with direct international ties and indefinite administrative statutes. Moreover, there have even been certain laws that were legislated in order to prevent Öcalan from benefiting from his rights. These “ Öcalan laws” were brought into force all over Turkey. Right now, Mr Öcalan still remains imprisoned in a cell-type room in İmralı. Along with him, we have three other clients in this island prison. They are also kept in separate cells and included in this isolation policy with Öcalan. So much so that our clients, who were brought to prison in 2015, have not been allowed to see their lawyers even once for 8 years. Can you tell us how strict the isolation we’re talking about is? For example, when was the last time Öcalan got to see a lawyer? Mr Öcalan has had only five meetings with his lawyers in 12 years since 2011, all of them concentrated within a single year; 2019. The last meeting was in August 2019. According to Turkish laws, in fact, lawyers can meet with their clients at any time during working hours and without being subject to any permission. During his 24 years in İmralı, Öcalan could use his right to communicate with his family on the telephone only twice. The first call was in 2020, due to the Covid-19 pandemic at the time. The second call, which came after the social media posts that raised concerns about his life and well-being, lasted only two minutes before the phone disconnected. In this phone call, Mr Öcalan objected to the reduction of his rights to communicate into a single phone call and stated that “the law should be enforced and the lawyers should be allowed to come” to meet with him, before the disconnection of the telephone. Since this last phone call on 25 March 2021, we have been unable to receive any information from Mr Öcalan and the other prisoners, with no lawyer or family visits, no phone calls, not even a letter… So, what can be done in the context of international law to end this absolute isolation? To put an end to the incommunicado detention and inability to receive information that cannot be resolved despite our efforts, we applied to the United Nations Human Rights Committee (OHCHR) on 29 July 2022 as a last resort due to the exhaustion of domestic remedies, including the Turkish Constitutional Court (AYM). In our application, we also requested an injunction against the restriction that has prevented receiving any type of information from our clients, Mr Öcalan and the three other prisoners, despite all the persistent attempts of their families and lawyers since 25 March 2021. The OHCHR urged the State party to end the incommunicado detention to which the applicants were subjected and to allow the applicants immediate and unrestricted access to a lawyer of their choice. However, the Turkish government authorities did not comply with the Committee’s injunction either. On the contrary, the government’s response to this decision was further prohibitions of family and counsel visits, and instead of repealing the ban on phone calls and meeting with lawyers, it openly defended these prohibitions with no legal grounds in its responses to the Committee. As Mr Öcalan’s lawyers, we still continue to take all legal initiatives. But we are also still prevented from seeing him, and also seeing the documents of the unlawful and arbitrary bans and disciplinary punishments given to him, which are being unlawfully smuggled from us to prevent us from examining their content. Thus, our clients’ files are finalised and implemented before we can object. Twenty-four years of legal practices in İmralı clearly reveals that it is an environment that is completely governed by politics where universal law is not applied at all. Besides, the silence and ineffectiveness of institutions such as the CPT and the ECHR further encourage Turkey. What exactly do you mean by silence and ineffectiveness? Can you expand on this? For example; the European Court of Human Rights (ECHR) has our application regarding the isolation. Although we made this application in 2011, the ECHR has not delivered a judgment on this file for the past 12 years. The ECHR stated that the aggravated life sentence given to Mr Öcalan in 2014 is against the prohibition of torture and that some amendments should be made in the law on the execution of sentences. It is the Committee of Ministers, an institution of the Council of Europe, which ensures and monitors the implementation of ECHR decisions, however, Turkey did not implement this decision in 2014. Likewise, the Committee of Ministers only put this issue on its agenda in 2021, seven years later, and has not reached an effective decision so far. Another Council institution is the European Committee for the Prevention of Torture (CPT). In 2019, a CPT delegation visited İmralı Island. It announced its report in August 2020, describing the situation in İmralı as incommunicado and underlining that the Turkish government’s reasons for isolation are deceptive. The CPT emphasised that aggravated life imprisonment, which means imprisonment until death, is torture and should be changed. Despite the evaluations on providing family and lawyer visitations, ending disciplinary punishments, and increasing the right to have fresh air outdoors and social activities, the Government took a step further regarding the isolation and intensified it even more. And then, during the last two years of an absolute lack of communication with Öcalan, the only incident was the CPT announcing that they visited İmralı Prison on 22 September 2022. However, in our meeting with them following the visit, CPT officials refused to give us any information and avoided making any statements. In fact, the CPT is entitled to initiate a procedure against states that do not comply with their recommendations and make its observations public without government approval. Nevertheless, despite the two years of no communication with İmralı and the fact that the CPT is the only international authority that is allowed to visit the island, they did not share a single piece of information, citing the procedures to justify their attitude and even treating what goes on in the İmralı Island Prison as if it were normal. As such, the CPT has regressed to a repetitive, diplomatic, inactive, idiosyncratic body that does not catalyse any changes in the island. These examples show that, in addition to Turkey’s “ National İmralı Policies” implemented by the country alone, there is also a comprehensive and systematic İmrali policy which is undercover in the context of the US, Turkey and EU relations in the international arena. submitted by FreeOcalan78 to MiddleEastNews [link] [comments] |
2023.03.26 09:55 deadmatteruser A vent into the void
⚠️⛔️TW: delete if not allowed (alcohol, self harm, porn, drugs)
I’m addicted to porn, and masturbation. I have depression and anxiety. I’m trying Prozac, but tonight I’m getting really drunk and crossfaded. I just can’t be sober right now til I know what the fuck to do. I want to fucking cut, really bad. But if I do that I’ll have to tell my gf what’s going on and idk if it’s necessary.
We recently had a blow up argument about my porn and masturbation addiction. I had told her that I was masturbating to ex co-workers instagram profiles that we both worked with in the past.
I have a need to tell my gf everything about everything. I can’t fucking stop. I tell her when I watch porn, what kind, who I fantasize about, and I don’t do it to be mean intentionally. I know it hurts to see the long ass text on a Monday morning when she’s at work. Because that’s the only time I send a paragraph. Never talk about it in person. I can’t. But these texts are not on purpose.
I am eaten alive with guilt and shame until I send a detailed paragraph seeking reassurance that my actions are forgiven.
I know what I’m doing is wrong. She’s asked me not to look at redit porn. She’s asked me not to jerk off to the slutty stories subreddit. Well I’be been doing both ever since I agreed to stop sending paragraphs for good. I even told her to leave me if I send another one ever again. Since telling her that, I keep going back to the slutty confessions subreddit to find posts made by women and check every profile for pictures and hoping I’m horny enough in that moment to DM them. Until I finish, then I instantly regret everything. I even tease myself by going to their dms, thinking about messaging them but don’t. Or upvote posts that notify them to send you a nude, then undo it.
I’m feeling really self destructive right now, hence my drinking
I’m sorry if this all means I’m truly a shittt person . I wouldn’t forgive me.
I need someone to talk to bad. I have 0 friends that I can tell about this heavy shit.
Edit: was triggered and became aroused again and browsed Reddit porn, again.
I don’t know that there’s hope for me
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2023.03.26 09:55 yungdune Diagnosis Advice
Thank you for reading this post. I’m not looking for a diagnosis from the community just advice.
I’ve had struggles when it comes to intimate relationships with partners. The problems usually are anxiety based and until recently realising more so fear of intimacy/rejection/trust issues.
I find it hard to truly open up to people in fear of judgment because my emotions/personality/interests have somewhat been all over the place for a long while (or so felt like they have been). I have tendencies to become a mix of codependent (keeping the peace and people pleasing) with avoidant tendencies like fear of commitment and anxiety with change.
Last year I came out of a relationship we’re I thought after years of personal growth thought had got to a place where I was good. However after breaking up 10 months later realising I still had a lot of anxiety with commitment and trust. I broke up with my partner also because I was on the fence emotionally and couldn’t work out how I truly felt with contrasting emotions.
I’ve had a mental health assessment from the NHS and because I was going through my breakup they said I’m suffering from anxiety and depression (something I’ve had for a long time) but can’t diagnose anything further.
My situation now is, and one I wanted to ask the community… Should I get a private mental health assessment or should I speak to a therapist for personal development and diagnosis? My worry is a 1 hour private mental health assessment isn’t long enough to truly give me a true result?
I become fixated and get ruminating thoughts patterns that I have have either NPD, BPD, Bi Polar, ADHD or on the spectrum.
I appreciate you taking the time to read this and would welcome any feedback/suggestions.
Thank you.
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2023.03.26 09:52 lizkanjo Navigating Dating as a Vegan Woman
Hi all!
I have been vegetarian since I was 12 and vegan since I was 16, and I'll be 24 next month. I grew up in a small town where I can say almost with 100% confidence that I was the only vegetarian, let alone vegan. I dated meat eaters through HS, but when I moved out, went to college, moved to a big city, I started dating vegetarians(with the exception of living in a vegan house for a few months, I have never met another real vegan irl).
I thought dating vegetarians would be more in line with my moral principles/be open to veganism down the line, but most of them seemed to be vegetarian for dogmatic cultural or religious reasons rather than for the ethics. They also happened to be all Indian(more common to be vegetarian in that community), and tbh as a white girl, I don't want to send red flags or seem like I have a racial fetish by exclusively dating one race since it has creeped out a few of the guys I have been with.
A few months ago, my ex of a few years broke up with me, moved back to India and I guess is getting an arranged marriage. This has triggered major panic in me because the idea of having to go through the dating process again is quite disheartening when only .5% of the population is vegan and 5% is vegetarian. And the numbers for male vegans/vegetarians are even lower :(.
I can't imagine having a non-vegan or vegetarian partner. I feel extremely uncomfortable when my friends eat meat in front of me, so I can't imagine being able to get horny or have respect for my partners if I have to watch them eat dead animals :/.
I've tried discussing animal rights with the guys I go on dates with, but it makes me come across as super uptight and intense and it usually kills their interest in me. So I don't know if the" convert them to veganism thing will work", and I don't want to get in a relationship hoping that one day they will change.
I've tried apps like veggly, but haven't had much luck(I'm slim with a normal looking face, but do makeup well). Am I doomed to be single forever?
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2023.03.26 09:52 AlarmingAd5142 Up down stop elevator single button.
Need project red or some way of replicating the gates but say you have a mine with an elevator but you don't want predefined stops. Go up with a redstone signal in the wall from the bottom where you can place a column of buttons.
Tie this column into a t flip flop or toggle latch. Tie both outputs into a multiplexer. Take the output from your multiplexer into the clutch on the elevator this is your brake
Take this same out to power a second t flip flop and tie one output to your gearshift.
Result is up brake down brake repeat.
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2023.03.26 09:50 Nephril_Daemous Alternative Action system for DnD5e Please help with critiques
Paying respects where I took inspiration. First obviously Dungeons and Dragons fifth edition. My system is merely a shiny new face on their existing game.
Secondly Pathfinder second edition. As a long-time pathfinder player, I respect their innovation when math is concerned. I had wracked my brain for a while trying to figure out a way to make a 3-action system work for 5e but never spent the time to make anything functional.
Finally TheDungeonCoach, it was his video proposing a 4 action system and his thoughts on acting around a whole round instead of limiting yourself to your turn that made me really think this needed to happen. He proposed very broad ideas he would be putting into his new d20 system. I decided to develop a half step that allows for a few modifications to allow for the current DnD 5e to function without overhauling every class and aspect of the game and utilize an action token system.
My take on the action system is called the “Four Token System”. I’ll go over the basic rules and then the few modifications that you have to make to utilize this in a 5e game.
First is some verbiage. Turn (initiative): same as 5e it is your designated place in the initiative.
Round: from the end of one of your turns until the end of your next turn.
Standard Actions (Standard): actions that must be taken during your turn.
Fast Actions (Fast): Can be taken any time during a round resolved in between other people's turns.
Reactions: can be used to interrupt someone else's turn anytime during a round. Usually in response to a triggering action.
Dash: treated the same as a move action.
Attack: Performing an action meant to reduce hit points or effectiveness of another creature/object.
There are three costs for actions. If you do not have enough points you cannot take the action. If you end your turn with points left over they are forfeited and you get reset back to 4 tokens. You will see though there is really no reason to ever end a turn with tokens left over.
By having tokens reset at the end of your turn you are left open to make decisions during the round preceding your initiative. You can spend tokens as you see necessary or make the decision to save some tokens for your turn. If the points reset at the beginning of your turn you would have to constantly wonder if you should attack, move, or save your resources. This also means that just before tokens rest you have the most valuable spenders available to you so you can milk every last drop of value out of your round.
Because this system does open up actions to attack an overall rule for rules covering both magic and martial is also implemented. You may only spend 2 actions to attacks per round plus one attack of opportunity. The purpose of this system is to promote interaction outside of your turn. Not simply to allow players to make extra attacks. This is not free Haste. Use your other actions to dodge, disengage, buff, heal, help, or any other number of options.
Not every action is created equal and because of that costs from action to action vary. Here is a list of actions and their associated cost.
Name: Interact with an object
Cost: 0
Speed: Fast
Effect: You may draw or store any object, and interact with objects in the game like opening doors or pulling levers.
Name: Taking a potion, drinking, or putting food in your mouth.
Cost: 1
Speed: fast or standard.
Effect: If done as fast you roll normally for all effects. If done as a standard you can maximize the variable effects except the damage dealt. Doing any of these to another willing person is a Standard action.
Name: Attack
Cost: 1
Speed: Standard
Effect: You may take one attack action. If your class has an extra attack you may only utilize the additional attacks 1/turn. You may spend additional points to get additional single attacks.
Token Flip: If this attack triggers an ability that allows you to make an additional attack as a bonus you may flip the token instead of paying it. Once flipped this token is counted as used, however when you are refunded all of your tokens the flipped token stays flipped. This token is identified as one that can be used for your bonus action attack at reaction speed. It may also be spent normally for other actions.
Name: Move
Cost: 1
Speed: Standard
Effect: You can move your current speed for whichever movement type you possess. Each time you take a Move you may sacrifice 5 feet to interact with an additional item during that turn.
Token Flip: if you make a movement and sacrifice 5 feet of your speed to interact with an item you may flip your token instead of paying it. Once flipped that token can be turned in at any time to interact with an object during that round.
Name: Special Movement
Cost: 1
Speed: Standard
Effect: Any ability that allows for a player to perform a dodge, hide, disengage, dash, or other movement-related ability as a bonus action can take that action as a standard and an additional dash.
Name: All previous reactions.
Cost: 1
Speed: Reaction
Effect: All previous reactions will operate the same as before. Each requires a Unique triggering effect.
Name: Cantrip
Cost: 1
Speed: Standard
Effect: You may cast a cantrip normally.
Exception: Eldritch blast: Eldritch blast will only fire multiple beams on the first cast of a round. After that, you may fire 1 bolt for 1 token or cast the spell as normal for 2 tokens.
Name: Help
Cost: 1
Speed: Reaction
Effect: you may use the help action as outlined in 5e rules.
Name: Shielding
Cost: 1
Speed: Reaction
Effect: When you are wielding a shield you may grant your shield’s ac bonus to another player. It is a fast action to change the ac bonus back to yourself for free or 1 token to return the shield ac bonus to yourself or another player as a reaction.
Name: Restorative and Defensive spells
Cost: 1
Speed: Standard
Effect: Any spell used to remove a condition, restore hp, Only grant temp hp, or stabilize a companion can be cast. Additionally, any spell that is only a defensive buff.
Name: Reactionary Spells
Cost: 1
Speed: Reaction
Effect: You may cast a spell with a default casting time of reaction.
Name: Bonus Action Attacks with no prerequisite action.
Cost: 1
Speed: Reaction
Effect: You may make your attack at any time during a round between the turns of others.
Name: Quickened spells
Cost: 1
Speed: Action
Effect: Any spell that has its casting speed as a bonus action.
Name: Other Bonus Actions
Cost: 1
Speed: Standard
Effect: Any ability with a listed speed of Bonus action can be executed as a standard action. As there are so many bonus actions in the game two special lists will be created. One for Fast actions and another for reactions. This will probably be lengthy. Most bonus actions will fall under the Standard speed. But there will undoubtedly be some that make more sense to be done out of your turn.
Name: Slotted Spells
Cost: 2
Speed: Standard
Effect: You may cast any spell you know with a listed casting time of an action. When using this option you are limited to one spell per school of magic per round. Limit one slotted spell that deals hit-point damage per round.
Name: Action Upgrade
Cost: 2
Speed: Reaction
Effect: You may make any 1 token cost ability with a standard or fast speed as a reaction.
Name: Intercept Hit
Cost: 2
Speed: Reaction
Effect: After an ally has been hit but before damage or effect has been declared you may execute this maneuver. It allows you to move 5 feet before qualifying for the defense. There are 2 qualifying positions.
- Being adjacent to the ally is hit.
- Be in the path the attack is coming from.
If the attack hit your ally it hits you. Your resistance and immunities apply as normal. In the case of control spells, you would make your save normally.
Name: Dive to safety
Cost: 2
Speed: Reaction
Effect: In response to being in an area spell, The player can move up to his speed ending in an open square prone, and the player gains an advantage on the saving throw. If the spell limits movement in any way you make the save before moving.
Name: Trigger a spell battle.
Cost: 2
Speed: Reaction
Effect: This is a unique counterspell mechanic. Please see Spell Battle for a full breakdown.
Quick explanation:
- Identify a spell as its being cast.
- Choose a spell to counter it with.
- Opposed caster checks.
- The winner’s spell goes off the loser’s doesnt. Possibly both spells go off if tied.
Name: Slotted Spell Cast Upgrade
Cost: 3
Speed: Reaction
Effect: You may cast any slotted spell as a reaction.
Now the recommended setup.
Each player is given 4 markers (like poker chips, playing cards, or coins.) it is important that the marker has two different faces.
These tokens are given to the dm or otherwise removed from their remaining tokens to denote using an ability. These represent the 4 actions you get to take in a round.
Certain actions will allow you to turn a token over denoting its use for something else. (explained in specifics later).
All 4 tokens are refunded to the player at the end of their turn. (You cannot take a standard action after your token has been returned until the beginning of your next turn.)
The aforementioned
SPELL BATTLE Before getting too far into this, I understand this is a slightly more complicated process than people are used to. However, casters, especially those who want to interact with other casters, need to understand that playing with spell interactions is potentially powerful and gives a way to develop completely unheard-of builds.
Also, you have a little wiggle room when deciding if you are going to commit. You may abandon a spell battle during step 1 with no expended resources. Once you choose a spell to battle with you are locked in regardless of what happens.
Step 1 Identify the spell.
DC10+spell level (level spell is cast at not original level)
RELIGION: Cleric/paladin/demon/angel
NATURE: druid/rangefey
ARCANE: Dragon/arcane/aberration
History: Increase the dc to 15+cast level
Step 2 identify the result
if you fail you are at disadvantage for a caster level check. and if you use a spell of a lower level than the one to be countered you fail.
if you make the check you identify the spell and level and can choose a spell accordingly.
Step 3 Choosing the spell
The same level equals a flat roll, a lower level is at disadvantage, and a higher-level spell gives you an advantage.
The spell must make sense to counter.
Either in the same school.
Thematically make sense.
Or most abjuration spells would be good for countering.
Example: Someone casts Magic missile targeting an ally beside you. You use mage armor to envelope them in its protection. You win the roll and negate their spell. Now your ally has mage armor on.
Example: they cast an eldritch blast and you overwhelm it with burning hands, they take damage normally and their eldritch blasts streak safely by as they are unable to successfully target an opponent.
Step 4 Caster checks Each caster makes a d20 roll.
The original caster makes a flat roll. the counter speller makes it modified based on the identity and level of the spell used to counter.
Each caster adds their casting stat modifier and proficiency bonus to the roll. as well as any bonus that increases their spells to hit or save dc whichever is the highest.
Example: An artificer with an int of 18, PB of 2, and a +1 many tool cast blur a 2nd-level spell in a 2nd-level slot.
Your wizard attempts to counter the spell. he rolls an arcana check and gets a total of 12 exactly making the necessary dc.
He opts to use see invisibility to counter the spell claiming that divination-enhanced vision makes sense to counter an illusion spell.
the wizard has a 20 int and PB of +3
So the artificer rolls first he gets to roll a d20+4(int)+2(PB)+1(many tool increases the spell to hit.) he rolls average and gets a total of 18
Since the wizard is using the same level spell he doesn't get an advantage or disadvantage and he rolls d20+5(int)+3(PB)+0 as he has no item to boost him.
First possible: the wizard succeeds in getting a total greater than the artificer. the artificer's spell fizzles and the wizard now have to see invisibility active.
Second possibility: the wizard rolls lower than the artificer. His see invisibility is expended and the blur goes off normally. The wizard does not get his spell’s effects.
Third possibility: A tie. they both roll the exact same amount. The artificer's spell resolves first and the wizard's second they both get the effects of their spells.
Caveat for ties only: Both spells are considered as passing each other and in flight simultaneously. The artificers will hit a fraction of a second before the wizards so a few things to note.
In the event, the first caster's spell causes the second one to die or become unable to cast spells it does not affect the spell in the air. Even if the second caster is disintegrated his last spell will hit and resolve normally.
If the second caster uses dispel magic to counter then dispel magic will resolve like normal possibly removing the buff spell the first caster just placed on himself.
Any advice anyone can give that is geared towards making this fun and as close to balanced as possible please help me out.
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2023.03.26 09:46 o0Lithium0o How do I start believing in myself?
The moment I found out about shifting I didn't question whether it was real or not. I don't know why but it was really easy for me.
And then I heard that I also had to believe in MY ability to shift. My first reaction was that of course I believe in myself. Why would I be different?
I am a very logical person. I know what I'm doing, how I'm doing and what's going to happen. I like to plan things and I expect them to go that way. (Logical not sceptical, maybe that's why I easily believed shifting because for me it was logical that it could exist)
So everything sounds good right? Well it did for a while but I didn't shift. I'm almost at my 2. year mark. Not that it really bothers me. Belive me if had shifted after a few month I would have gotten SO MUCH SCRIPTED TRAUMA like I really needed the time to understand how this all works.
But my problem is not that I think I developed some kind of reflex. (You know the Pavlov-reflex? Kinda like that)
I want to shift - I attempt - I wake up in my cr
I did this so many time that when I attempt to shift my brain says "okay I know what we are doing, we will wake up in our cr" because I always do that.
I literally don't know in the morning if I had attemped to shift last night because I always wake up in my cr doesn't matter if I try to leave or not. When I do know I start to gaslight myself thinking "that wasn't a real attempt" so now I decide that yes this will be a real attempt and the next day I say that it wasn't. I'm sure this also not the best.
I realized all of this when I watched a tiktom where the girl said she shifted and my first reaction was "imagine". And I stopped thinking? When did I loose fait in myself and that I will shift?
It sucks because I want to belive in myself. I know I can shift. But it's similar when I fall in love with my best friend. I knew we can't date, I wanted to like turn it off, but I couldn't.
I know I can shift. I do. But I just don't belive.
I don't know how stopping for a few weeks (like taking a break) would help me if I don't do anything with this problem.
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2023.03.26 09:46 Unlikely-Honeydew-85 I wish I had friends. All I have Is my gf.
(F19) though I adore her so much I just wish I had someone else to go to besides her. I already know how draining it can be when your partner doesn’t really have an active social life so I try not to drown her in my abis. I learned to live comfortably alone but the feeling of loneliness just creeps up on me and checks me in to reality. I guess you can say I’m “not missing out on much” and that people can be toxic and all that but I do miss joy of being in a platonic relationship.
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2023.03.26 09:45 spoiledbrat1002 It is about my relationship with my parents
I have been bought up with utmost care by my father. But this care has become possessiveness. I feel suffocated in here. Few days ago i was hist doing my regular work and i haven't took the shower because it was early morning. My brother had gone somewhere and we had one scooty parked in garage that i was unware because i thought my brother has taken that. But my father was aware of it. He had to go to his friend so instead of asking me to drop him there he asked one if my brother's friend to drop him. When i was just sitting in front him. Damn it. I assumed we don't have any vehicle rn that is why he is asking help from my brother's friend. But we had scooty in there that i got know after he left. When i confronted him after this he said tumhein kapde change karne oadte isliye maine use boldiya. I was so furious like damn it who is your child him or me. Don't you trust me enough that i can drop you somewhere. Will he come at every sorrow or happiness of your. But any of my words didn't bother him. He is still the same. I don't want this type of care. Pls tell me what to do.
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