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Introduction
1) Will this be your first dog? If not, what experience do you have owning/training dogs?

• Yes, this will be my first dog.

2) Do you have a preference for rescuing a dog vs. going through a reputable breeder?

• Not sure. Probably breeder.

3) Describe your ideal dog.

• I guess I want a dog that’s lazy when I’m lazy. Is ok to be left alone. (I go to work two days a week and WFH the rest of the week.) A dog that is quiet during my meetings. A dog that is good with kids.

I have two young kids (less than 8). Safety is paramount. (In fact, maybe not getting a dog or waiting is the correct decision here.) I don’t want a dog that scares them or bites them. I’ve read a few posts about resource guarding and dogs needing a muzzle or biting an owner that brought blood. If there’s a chance of that, tell me don’t get a dog.
I want a dog to love, to care for, to make me happy.
I prefer a dog that needs light exercise. I do not have a giant house or a giant backyard.
4) What breeds or types of dogs are you interested in and why?

• Mini poodle, they’re not powerful dogs. I’ve read poodles are really smart. Due to their size, I imagine the pee/poop will be easier.

This is a concession for me. I’ve never wanted a small dog. Perhaps a Saint Bernard or a Newfoundland dog, because I’ve read they’re gentle. Again, the kids.
I think a standard poodle or a golden retriever may need more than what we can offer. I don’t want a small dog though. I wanted doodles for a while, but, then read some more and decided against them.
Maybe an Old English sheepdog, reason being they’re really docile and good with kids. Right?
I was thinking of a Great Dane or Saint Bernard but i think they’re fairly slobbery which i don’t prefer.
5) What sorts of things would you like to train your dog to do?

• With the time available being very limited, I’d probably rely a lot on a dog trainecamp to help with basic stuff. Or teach me a little how to train and I could repeat the steps as I have time available.

(What i mean by limited is that i work every day and with the kids and all their activities, i don’t have a whole lot of time. Do you recommend to take time off to settle the dog in?)
6) Do you want to compete with your dog in a sport (e.g. agility, obedience, rally) or use your dog for a form of work (e.g. hunting, herding, livestock guarding)? If so, how much experience do you have with this work/sport?

• No.

Care Commitments
7) How long do you want to devote to training, playing with, or otherwise interacting with your dog each day?

• Lounging, and caring for him, as soon as I get home.

8) How long can you exercise your dog each day, on average? What sorts of exercise are you planning to give your dog regularly and does that include using a dog park?

• Walking him 30 minutes a day or so. Truth be told, sometimes work is really tiring and I sleep early. Maybe there would be a day or so that I don’t walk him.

9) How much regular brushing are you willing to do? Are you open to trimming hair, cleaning ears, or doing other grooming at home? If not, would you be willing to pay a professional to do it regularly?

• I would be willing to pay a groomer to do it professionally.

Personal Preferences
10) What size dog are you looking for?

• a 60-or pound dog, just thinking along the lines of a golden retriever or a poodle. Read that great pyrs don’t need a lot of exercise…?

11) How much shedding, barking, and slobber can you handle?

• With this being my first dog, probably little shedding, not too much barking and very little slobber. With that being said, I think I can change. I wouldn’t assume anything is too rigid.

12) How important is being able to let your dog off-leash in an unfenced area?

• Not super important. The dog would only be off leash in the backyard.

Dog Personality and Behavior
13) Do you want a snuggly dog or one that prefers some personal space?

• Snuggly. Again if I’m being honest, probably a dog that can do their own thing while I’m at work (or working) and snuggle later.

14) Would you prefer a dog that wants to do its own thing or one that’s more eager-to-please?

• Eager to please.

15) How would you prefer your dog to respond to someone knocking on the door or entering your yard? How would you prefer your dog to greet strangers or visitors?

• Knocking on the dooentering yard, Barking. Strangers, visitors, getting their bearings.

16) Are you willing to manage a dog that is aggressive to other dogs?

• No. Not at all.

17) Are there any other behaviors you can’t deal with or want to avoid?

• Biting. Dogs that can growl at their own owners. With this being my first dog, i want this to be a pleasant experience. Obviously there’s a lot of work I that’s involved in this endeavor. I’m willing to do the work. May be all dogs bite as part their puppy stage… i just don’t want to be afraid of my own dog or have my kids afraid of the dog.

Lifestyle
18) How often and how long will the dog be left alone?

• Nowadays, with Covid, I WFH three days a week and go to the office two days a week.

Dog will be left alone two days a week from 8 to 5 or so.
19) What are the dog-related preferences of other people in the house and what will be their involvement in caring for the dog?

• My wife is open to the idea of a dog. It will also be her first dog. The two kids, it’ll be their first dog. Not sure if I want to saddle them with any responsibilities.

20) Do you have other pets or are you planning on having other pets? What breed or type of animal are they?

• We have no other pets, nor are we planning to get other pets.

21) Will the dog be interacting with children regularly?

• Yes, absolutely.

22) Do you rent or plan to rent in the future? If applicable, what breed or weight restrictions are on your current lease?

• We do not rent.

23) What city or country do you live in and are you aware of any laws banning certain breeds?

• We live in Southern California. Not that i know of.

24) What is the average temperature of a typical summer and winter day where you live?

• Quickly searching google, found this: “Over the course of the year, the temperature typically varies from 43°F to 94°F and is rarely below 35°F or above 102°F.”

Additional Information and Questions
25) Please provide any additional information you feel may be relevant.

• No additional information.

26) Feel free to ask any questions below.
I’m interested to hear from first time dog owners about what they thought they could handle. Did the breed end up being more than they bargained for?
Is having a dog from them being a puppy an important factor to bond or not really?
I really want to make sure I’m making the right decision here. I don’t want to get a dog and not giving him/her what they need.
I’ve been thinking about getting a dog for about a year. I want a non human buddy I guess. I want to love something and care for.
Can you please recommend a breeder?
This is such a big topic that i know I’m probably missing something. Really looking towards a standard poodle. I think they look aesthetically pleasing.

**[PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't contact me if you aren't at least 18 years of age or you’re male, even if you’re the bf or [email protected]#%#&*?>!!!!]**
It's not creepy. I'm just appreciating a work of art.
Maybe you've had a man notice you and you wish he didn't turn his head away?
Or maybe you don't get noticed like you deserve to be?
Maybe you've wanted to tease a man and watch the hardness grow in his pants?
Maybe you like to wear skirts sans panties, and would stand over me?
Maybe you've wanted to cheat, sort of, without really, actually?
Maybe you've wanted to feel sexy, without sex?
(While we both have masks on. Double masks, even, because covid. Even if you're married.)
I want to find just one woman to, while in her chosen state of undress, would like a respectful and respectable gentleman to just be there close and observe... and moan and ogle and take in the beautify before him, while keeping his hands to himself.
Don't get me wrong, I really do like sex. And I'm not a prude. I just really like the feminine form, these are not times to be exchanging bodily fluids, and truth be told I wouldn't want to actually get physical with anyone I don't feel an emotional connection to first. (Yes there are men like that.)
Now, I realize a woman would be cautious about being so vulnerable with a stranger so I expect a lot of our initial conversations would be about placating your justifiable concerns. I'm all about that. A gentleman bears the burden of making a lady feel comfortable enough to proceed.
That said, based on experience with a similar post I tried from a now-deleted account of mine that brought no success, what I won't do is play games, converse with someone who won't tell me where she's located, engage in virtual play of any kind, or just answer questions while not being allowed to ask a few of my own. I'm sorry but I will block one-liners and incoherence.
About me: Not a creep! Really, women approach me in public to ask for directions and children approach me to help find their parents. I'm told I look "smart" and "presentable." I attractive enough to be noticed more when I don't have my ring on. Brown hair. White.
About you: No age limit either way. I guess I'm open to anything for this but in general I have been attracted to relatively more innocent appearances on the scale of things. As for race, I have mostly been attracted to Asian, Black, Latina, and white (in alphabetical order. And I suppose just because I haven't even been around a lot of Middle Eastern women?) Be at least somewhat attractive. If you're exceptionally attractive and you're used to men noticing you, or if you're not so sure and want the compliment of having me in a state of agonizing desire, this might be perfect for you. Especially if you're much younger or older and just want the appreciation with no contact.
Important: Obviously I don't mean just "check you out" while behind in line at the grocery or watching you jog by while you are wearing tight clothes, because I wouldn't need to post an ad for that. This would need to be in a private or semi-private space or some place that is so vast that we're so far from everyone that they won't wonder what I'm doing examining you so closely . Consider wearing nothing, yoga clothes, a swimsuit, underwear, etc. Just as obviously, I am not looking for an "online thing" or even talk about this with someone who isn't in the SF Bay Area or Northern California.

So i am in a relationship with her for now more than 3 years and in that time period we have broken up like 10 times or more maybe i have lost count at this pace but everytime we broke up we both end up apologizing to each other crying and patch up. Same thing happened again and we didn't talked to each other for a week until i had a minor car accident and the guy who bought me to the hospital said he called her from my mobile cause the last person i tried to call was her so he called her to tell about my accident but ofcourse she didn't picked so he texted her about my accident and she called straightaway to know where i was and the moment i learned she was coming hospital i made the accident a big deal and faked a few things and stranger understand my situation so he helped me out too and we ended up going home together that night and patched up again.

I just saw you again today and every time I do it occurs to me that you're a human being. Not just a character in my life. Not just that distant shadow I call my dad with a shrug. I love you, I really do and always have. I've never been as affected that you left. So I've never truly gotten closure. You've just been... Gone. And I have nothing bad to say. It's crazy. I look for answers to our relationship in poetry like lots of people do; and I can't resonate. Hate, hate, hate. Talk of how a father's anger is like a knife. Which is true, Ive experienced your anger, dad. But it never stuck with me.
What sticks in me is knowing you're human. Your humanity is like a knife. I feel like two strangers laughing together every time we talk again. I feel like I'll never get closure. Why did you really leave? Well... I don't know. We're so alike. Similar interests, similar emotions. It's a scary thing. You're not just some monster. You're not a villain to me. Your sighs and your tears your jokes and your sarcasm.. it's real to me and I see it. I'm sorry we had to split apart. I don't know what you're going through as a man. It can't just be as one dimensional as the poets put it. I'm sorry, dad. I'm sorry you're hurting and I know you are. I know it's not easy being a man. I know you left for a reason. No one WANTS to get into a marriage and cheat and leave their family. Or at least, that's what I think.
Father, I do miss you. 5 years later of emotionless shrugging and I realize I miss you. I don't know you. I just know laughter. We get along pretty well.
Dad. I don't know. I hope youre well. I do.

Well, it’s over. Five years down the drain and for what? To make me feel hurt with the names you call me? To make me pay for all the things I’ve said or done to you because tit for tat. Right? Loving someone is not hurting them on purpose and that’s what you have been doing.
You’re hot one day and the next your freezing cold. If things don’t go your way or you have a bad dad at work then I’m your punching bag. I’ve stayed because I wanted to support and be there for you but I have a feeling that it’s done more harm than good. And I will reluctantly leave to let you heal yourself. I love you that much to do that even if it hurts me bad and for a long time.
You hate me so much and I just don’t understand it. These fights are getting to be more and more violent and hurtful with each punch in my gut. It’s like you are trying to get me to leave you because your scared or to cowardly to do it?!?
You were suppose to protect me and care for me and especially love me and be there for me. But I can count on one hand all the times I’ve needed you and told you I needed you only to be told “no, I can’t” or “no, I don’t want to be there for you.” And it’s not just started to happen, it’s been 5 years of that. Five years of selfishness and blame and pointing the finger at me because of my mental illness. Which my mental Illness gets blamed for EVERYTHING.
Which is why i don’t want to tell people about it. And all the while, you don’t take responsibility for anything that you do. I’m your scapegoat. Always have been and was up until right now.
Saying those things to me and provoking me just to get a rise and also to blame me is really a crappy think to do to someone. Especially someone you “love.”
But this is not love. You never loved me, you just loved the idea of me and the way I made you feel special, cared for and the way I took care of you daily.
I loved you with every ounce of my being. I praised you and supported you and took the blame even if it wasn’t mine to take. And what do I get for that, told that you don’t love me and don’t care about me, that you hate me so much, and that you hope I die tonight.
If you stumble across this unsent letter, please be kind and not make me feel like a loser for writing it. I’ve been made to feel like a loser, crazy, needy, and much more by you and I couldn’t take it if you did it to me once again. I just wanted to be amicable but I guess you hate me so much that it won’t happen that way now.
But, I forgive you. I do wish you the best after we part and move on. I will always want the best for you because no matter what was said or not said, I do still truly love you. I married you for a reason and my heart can’t just disregard you like that. You were a big part of my life and I will always want you to succeed in life and love.
Even if it’s not with me. I will truly miss you and you already know that I will always love you. Because you are you. My soulmate, my world, my everything, my husband. And now a stranger.
Go and be great and do great things. Just remember: You got this. And to smile, I love you.
Love, Me. XOXO

I recently got a husky mix (roughly 50-60lbs) and he is a very social dog. He is enthusiastic with other large dogs and social with other people, even approaching strangers in the dog parks and sitting in front of them asking to be pet. He is a complete sweetheart and affectionate dog, and I have him registered as an ESA. My concern is because twice today at two different dog parks, someone brought their small dogs into the big dog enclosure, and as I said, he is very enthusiastic with playing with other dogs. He has no issues with large dogs,and I only ever keep him off leash in the large dog parks. The first time today, it was some kind of bulldog? I'm not sure the breed, but it was small. He acted his usual way, but ended up getting a little aggressive towards the other dog, though no injuries were caused. I left the park with my dog and spoke with the owner over the fence to make sure his dog was alright. Afterwards, I walked him around before taking him to a different dog park. The second time was a man at the second park bringing a puppy and his other adult dog (who was also causing some trouble with the other dogs) into the large dog area. My dog was interested and was, once again very enthusiastic to greet the new dog, and me and my friend present suspect that the puppy reacting with fear was what set him off. Again, no one was injured, my friend held my dog on his leash while I checked in with the owner to make sure the pup was alright before the other person left. One of the other people at the second park reassured me that it wasn't my fault when the other person brought their small dog into the big dog park, but I'm still worried. It's not even all small dogs either, he's been scared off by a pug before! Still, it worries me, and I want to know if I should still bring him to dog parks because of this. I want him to be able to socialize and run around freely, but I don't want to put small dogs in danger. Any advice is welcome advice. He's my first dog, and I want to make sure I'm doing things correctly and if I can continue to bring him to dog parks.

Context: I live and work as a server & bartender in a resort town with +/- 30 inhabitants in the winter. I also have a bad coping mechanism for my ptsd, which is numbing myself by getting drunk. I'm working on it)
TW: Abuse, DV, SA, violence and home fire.
Got drunk after work on monday (ETA I'm a server and was closing alone, got drunk alone to numb ptsd flashbacks afterwards, sitting at the bar, before going home. I fell asleep there. Left before anyone came in but was caught on camera. I was off the clock and done with my duties but still in the work place eh)
Haven't touch a drink since then. I was feeling hopeful, no cravings whatsoever.
I just learned that I am fired (3 days later). I live in the company apartments. I have 24h to leave. I am 5000 km away from home.
Send me love and hope guys. I'm having a breakdown, but I won't drink.
UPDATE from tonight
I decided to not fight my employer's decision, but negotiated for a longer stay in my current apartment which is owned by the company I worked for. I still have to leave in two days, but it gave me some time to at least calm down and plan a little.
I've been feeling awful since I received the news that I lost my job and home, but it was a decision from head office and not direct management, so my coworkers have been incredibly supportive and helpful. The town where I reside is a very small, tight-knit community, there's only about 30 of us living here. Last night, my roommate invited our friends over for a sober boardgames night. It was simply amazing and I was shocked by how much people care for me and how upset they are about me having to leave. I had to talk people out of quitting in solidarity. I own my fuck up and they should not face unemployment because I do.
As I mentioned in my previous post, I am from Canada and live approximately 5000 kms away from home. I moved from the east coast (Montréal) to western Alberta a year ago. The only people I know here live in this tiny town, so I have nowhere to take refuge and regroup.
Losing my job is one thing, losing my home is just horrible. I have a long history of losing my home. I am 30 and this is the sixth time that I have HAD to move, instead of making the choice to.
- From birth to the age of 14, I lived in the same appartment. My dad and I had to move because our downstairs neighboor tried to break in and threatened to kill me every day during 2 years
- After we moved, my dad's drug addiction got worst, his suicidal ideations too. Not long after, my abusive uncle moved in with us. A few months after, I moved in with my older boyfriend because I was terrified and I was trying to keep myself mentally and physically safe
- 2 weeks before I turned 19, my older boyfriend, who was also abusive, kicked me out. I was estranged from my family so I ended up in the streets for almost a year
- Eventually, I managed to rent a place. It took time but I made it a home. Sadly, 2 years late, there was a home invasion at my apartment. A stranger forced his way in one night and held me captive for over 48 hours. He held me at gunpoint and raped me over the course of two days, then robbed me of most things I owned (even food and clothes) before leaving
- I obviously had to move out after. I found another apartment and managed to feel kinda safe and made it a home after a few years. It was my nest, my difficultly built safe place.
- After 8 years living there, I was woken up one night by a fire. I barely made it out alive. I lost everything I have ever possessed. EVERYTHING, except the clothes on my back and one of my two cats. I made it out alive, but I lost the safe living space I worked so hard to build.
- Last year, I moved all the way accross the country to try and rebuild myself. I found in this tiny town community, support, and the feeling of home. Now, I'm losing that again.
Having to leave is a terrible ptsd trigger but fortunately, my adrenaline kicked in and I'm sort of managing.
I started drinking hard 10 years ago to deal with the home invasion, and it finally caught up to me.
I found a place to stay at, with friends I lived and worked with last year. They're welcoming me with open arms. My struggle at the moment is to find a way there because they moved 10 hours away, in British Colombia, and I don't drive. The closest major city to me is 3 hours away.
Anyway, I still need love, support and encouragement.
Thanks for reading me 📷
Advices welcomed

Hello all,
I've got a few questions.
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I'm wondering - as a cis (and possibly bisexual??) woman who doesn't currently have any lgbt friends and only a few lgbt family members - how I can be the most supportive and understanding. I'm highly invested in the community but have little experience with actual members of it because I'm very much a hermit - sociable and kind as I can be but highly introverted. I often overthink how I act and what to say when I'm around people of cultures and backgrounds different from mine.
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Especially now with pride month coming up very soon, I really would like tips, opinions, or other ideas on how to best approach and talk to lgbt people. That being said, it goes without saying that I simply treat them like I would any other stranger. Many stores I frequent have lgbt employees and they've started to become familiar faces out during mall trips or the likes. Herein lies the issue: the other day, I was checking out with a cashier who was trans; I wanted to complement her on her hair but I stopped myself, wondering, "Would that come off as fake? Would she think I'm only trying to be nice because I realize she is transgender?" Furthermore, is it generally accepted as okay to ask a person their pronouns? I have once before and the question was very well received but I'm always too shy to do it.
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With mental health issues being highly common in the lgbt community, I've considered doing little gestures to offer support. When I went to Pride a couple of years ago, someone just randomly handed me a little laminated card telling me how beautiful and amazing and important I am, and that I deserve to exist in this world. It then said to pass it on to someone else who might need to see this message. This gesture was very important to me and I'll never forget it. I carried it for some time until I left it on a seat in the place of much of my healing, The OCD and Anxiety Treatment Center in Utah.I've considered creating and giving cards to people that say things like "you're loved" or "you're beautiful", but again, the question arises: "Would they think I'm forcing this?" I understand that this could be seen as an odd practice and I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. It's one thing to hand people cards of support out in the Pride crowd, but maybe it's another to give someone a card at Wal-Mart.
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Also, a side question completely unrelated: what animals or symbols are most associated with the community? I've got unicorns and rainbows but that's it, and a project of mine needs more variety.
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Thanks all. :)
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Probably undiagnosed narc but suspected narc tendencies by my dr. I have been so hesitant to post here as people see the word "narc" and they end up running away especially Redditors who like to look through my post history. But I realise this time I don't give a damn about impressing anyone on Reddit anyway.
My social skills suck, I am dumb af and I look up to socially apt people who are really smart af. I aspire to be like them and I feel very shy and intimidated around them. Yet, people constantly bewilder me all the time. My ex-friend, was someone who had no concept of social space - I realised that he stood so close to me all the time, invading my personal space. Plus for some reason, he always walked with a hunch and had a strange gait like he was limping in pain when he wasn't even in pain. I tried to gently teach him how to change his posture and I even gave him a short lecture on social space when he asked me about strangers crossing their arms when he was around them. Even an airhead like me dude. I gave him suggestions on how he could make his life more interesting and fun but he never took any of this advice in.
I get shocked and irritated when people are even dumber than me. I am like...I am so freaking dumb that I don't learn things fast, I have ADD and I always misplace things. Yet the stupid things people would say or do exasperate me. Like there was this group project where I told a girl to bring a bell for our class presentation for some mock game show. She brought some flimsy paper-weight. Or a guy friend who asked me if he would be able to sell his artwork etc. I told him that he had to take some basic art classes etc. I have told people what exactly they need to do if they want to pursue certain career paths etc but they never listen.
People who suck at reading the room get my goat all the time. Or those who ask me questions that I don't feel like answering. Fml I wish I was prettier and looked younger - it's like Merry from animal crossing but I am not as cute as her. (Trust me, the peppy villagers are narcy af lol always wanting to be a pop star and whatnot)

had a rocky start with college, changing majors and going through some hardcore personal issues involving people back home. it’s been really hard for me too go to classes, because i’m so afraid people are going to judge me for anything and everything. it sounds so lame but the idea of strangers disliking me or making fun of me is debilitating, and i interpret so many random things as negative slights towards me because i overthink them so much. this has made it really difficult to meet more people than the group i spent most of my time with early in the semester, who i no longer hang out with (guy in the group told me i was the least favorite of everyone at a birthday thing, and no one defended me so i stopped putting in effort to see them). i’ve always struggled with social stuff. i have a boyfriend but don’t want to put all of my social life into one relationship because that’s not fair to him or me. basically i want to know how people find friends that are kind and understanding. and how to get over the socially anxious tendencies i have that make me seem off-putting (shaking, avoiding taking or talking really fast, stuttering, blurting out the wrong thing, etc) any advice?

Where do we even begin? We have the resources, technology, and capital to meet the basic necessities of every person here regardless of circumstance. We have the capability of implementing all these things, and we've seen this happen! Kids in Minnesota are now going to get free school lunches this fall and all it took was a signing of a document. That's it. And not to keep beating a dead horse here, but a lot of developed countries have policies to keep their citizens healthy and housed. We have too many sociopathic, rugged-individualist, sold and hoed corporate politicians in DC running the show that keep us in a rat race to the bottom while they rake in corporate money. That's how they keep us in line. Im over it. I'm very lucky in my life to have the resources I do, but im sick of seeing my friends, their families, and even strangers struggle so much over things like medical debt or even rent! Rant over but I'd love to see your guy's thoughts.